At first, it was painful, seemingly unbearable at times, and in the same breath someone would recall a silly moment shared, and peels of laughter would pour tangling against the loss. Life does not stop even during times of grief. What does happen is isolated fragments of feelings and thoughts, a freeze-frame of time, a peeling of layers, almost as to dig up the soil, maybe unconsciously preparing ourselves for the lost loved one to have ground to take root. As life's hand plants gracefully seeds of hope, courage, and forgiveness, in an insufferable soil of one's heart.
And in time healing blooms, and one remembers love without shedding a million tears.
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A few weeks ago my brother's son Jack proposed to Jordan. Marty knew her well and he would be so happy.
Beautiful words. Hugs love and continued prayers for you all.
Love and many blessings
Those who live forever in our hearts are never far away
Love Jeanne
Posted by: Jeanne | 03 February 2022 at 01:24 PM
So beautiful and true.Congratulations to Jack and Jordan.
Posted by: Martina | 03 February 2022 at 07:50 PM
Beautiful, Corey...sending prayers and love.
Posted by: Kathy | 03 February 2022 at 08:01 PM
It is lovely to have something positive to share when still being reminded each day of the loss of a loved one. You write very well of these things...Jennie, NZ
Posted by: Jennifer Phillipps | 04 February 2022 at 12:09 AM
I'm happy to hear that his son has found love, and that your heart is healing.
xo
jackie
Posted by: jackie | 04 February 2022 at 03:09 AM
Grief is uncharted territory for us all, no map, no timetable.
I am grateful that you share parts of your journey with us, your friends and readers. It helps me, for sure, as my own grief bubbles up at the most unexpected moments.
Thanks, Corey. Be gentle with yourself.
Sending love and prayers ❤️
Posted by: Susan in Zurich | 04 February 2022 at 08:10 AM
Love and prayers to all. Healing hearts and warm hugs. Blessings
Posted by: Cynthia Thompson | 04 February 2022 at 09:48 AM
Grief,the undefeatable enemy to which we must wave the white flag of surrender once we find our own acceptable terms to make peace with it.
Posted by: Melly | 04 February 2022 at 11:50 PM
Yes, grief can bring equal measures of sadness and joy over the person simultaneously. The intensity of both emotions is intense. Hugs.
Posted by: Kathie B | 05 February 2022 at 12:02 AM
When I first followed your amazing blog..your father was dying in california..your posts were so poignant to me.I remember the angels who sing at your bedside..yu are such a comfort to so many.
roses
Posted by: roses madrigale | 05 February 2022 at 04:22 PM
Sending love as you remember.
Posted by: Marilyn | 07 February 2022 at 11:25 PM
The guttered candles and your words made me so sad. And then I read about the (would-have-been-approved-by-Marty) proposal. And I smiled.
Posted by: RC from the PNW | 18 February 2022 at 06:29 AM
I know the grief is hard. So sad. I know it has been 1 year but seems like yesterday. May God heal your grief and when you think of him you will smile.
Posted by: TerriNTexas | 23 February 2022 at 07:19 AM